Do Your Kids Stop Listening When You Address Their Bad Child Behaviour?
It can be very frustrating when kids seem to disregard a parent when they are asked to do a task, or given some child discipline for bad behavior. Many parents find that children tune them out when they give them instructions. In fact, it is easy for parents to take this personally. The problem is not necessarily disobedience or bad child behavior, even though it appears that way. This article explores this problem and gives some parenting strategies that will increase your kid’s ability to hear you and understand.
One of the problems is different communication styles and abilities. Children have a very small attention span and parents have a tendency to talk too much and to lecture you. Put these two facts together and you can appreciate why children do not listen.
Firstly it is important to get down to the level of the child. It’s a lot harder to ignore somebody who is right in your face. If you have something important to communicate is necessary to get down to the level of the child This might mean that you need to bend down or alternatively pick them up.
Change the way you talk to your child. Most parents used to many words and the child loses focus Decide what you want to say ahead of time and then say it in simple words. After giving the instructions just keep quiet.
Asked the child to repeat to you the instruction tell me what I said to you in after the child has repeated it just carry on what you were doing and let the child do what you ask them to do.
It is important for this interaction that you keep calm and clear. There is no need to threaten or yell, talk to them in a clear, calm voice.
Think about the way you generally communicate with the child. You certainly don’t go to these extreme lengths when you say good morning or are you hungry. Remember that is important to have communication that is also fun. Don’t have every communication with your child that is action focused or serious. Keep this kind of interaction for when it really matters or when you know that they’re not paying attention.

Posted November 20, 2008
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